Vulnerable narcissist traits: How to spot signs of Vulnerable Narcissism?

Individuals with vulnerable narcissism frequently struggle with feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and despair. They also frequently have a strong desire for other people's validation and approval.

The term narcissist is used to characterize people who are so preoccupied with themselves that they fail to notice the needs of those around them. Selfishness, a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and an obsessive demand for attention and adoration are typical characteristics of narcissists.

There are several narcissistic personality types as well, one of which is referred to as the vulnerable narcissist. Vulnerable narcissist traits are not easy to identify, but finding a treatment is definitely possible.

Traits of Vulnerable Narcissism

A person with vulnerable narcissism is someone who is prone to being extremely self-conscious, uneasy, and too sensitive to rejection. They alternate between feeling inferior to and superior to others, and when they are not treated with respect, they get quickly irritated, agitated, or even angry. Here are some traits that can help you identify vulnerable narcissism:

1) Insecurity is covered up by Introversion

Introversion is strongly correlated with vulnerable narcissism. Some narcissists appear more subdued and exhibit a subtle sense of superiority. Nonetheless, it frequently occurs because people are subconsciously afraid of admitting their shortcomings and failings.

Their false sense of superiority would be destroyed if they were to express it. In order to reduce the possibility of their more vulnerable façade being revealed, they stay away from social situations. Individuals with vulnerable narcissism may also shun social circumstances or relationships that do not plainly benefit them.

2) Hypersensitivity to criticism

Individuals with narcissism are highly sensitive to criticism. (Image via Unsplash/ Marija)

Due to their weak sense of self, vulnerable narcissists are more inclined to internalize criticism and to be particularly sensitive to it. Even if they make snarky or disparaging comments, feedback breaks them.

They are easily offended or humiliated by criticism. Vulnerable narcissists also depend on other people to satisfy their need for self-importance since they are continuously looking for affirmation of their abilities, skills, and successes.

3) Low sense of self

Individuals with vulnerable narcissism frequently have crippling insecurities and extremely low self-esteem, and they frequently use narcissistic behaviors to hide or deal with feelings of anxiety, depression, or humiliation. They have a reputation for entering "victim mode," frequently in the presence of adversity, their own criticism, harsh words, and shame.

4) Self-serving Empathy

They may only be able to display empathy, if it serves them. (Image via Freepik/ Freepik)

Contrary to what many people think, narcissists have some empathy. Alternatively, they might do so to bolster their own sense of significance and self-worth. Although vulnerable narcissists may appear to be sensitive or want to help others, their motivation is usually to gain the praise of others.

If they don't receive thanks or respect for their efforts, they could grow angry, which is a clear indicator. They could also comment on how others abuse their kindness.

Vulnerable Narcissist test - Is it a diagnosis?

You don't have to have a narcissistic personality disorder just because you exhibit the aforementioned qualities or behaviors. The only person qualified to diagnose this is a psychiatrist. But do seek out professional help or therapy if you notice indicators in yourself or others and feel the need to further examine this in order to better understand yourself.

Therapy can help you build a better relationship with yourself. (Image via Freepik/ Freepik)

In personality and social psychological research, the difference between overt and covert narcissism has recently gained acceptance. The two aspects of maladaptive narcissism defined by psychologist Paul M. Wink as grandiosity-exhibitionism (overt) and vulnerability-sensitivity (covert) are the basis for the distinction between overt and vulnerable narcissism.

The vulnerable and sensitive narcissistic style, commonly referred to as covert narcissism, is explored in some online tests. However, it is easy to fall prey to these and misdiagnose self or someone we know. If needed, seek the help of a mental health professional.

No two people will be precisely the same since vulnerable narcissism manifests itself through a wide range of actions. But you may get a good idea of the options by gauging a person's tendencies.

We can choose not to allow our insecurities to dictate how we perceive ourselves and the world around us, despite the fact that we all experience various types of insecurities. If you're feeling dissatisfied with who you are as a person and where you are in life right now, there is a way to get back on track and feel more like your genuine self.

A therapist can help you feel more at home with yourself and understand why you rely on particular negative habits if you're worried that you are dealing with vulnerable narcissism.

Janvi Kapur is a counselor with a Master's degree in applied psychology with a specialization in clinical psychology.

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