"Grow a backbone" — The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On fans criticize Nick for apologizing to Sandy for his behavior

Netflix's popular series The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3 released episodes 6-8 on Wednesday, December 11, 2024. In episode 7, The Changeover, the original couples reunited and shared insights from their three-week trial marriages. Nick, who had difficulty separating from his partner, Sandy, found himself apologizing to her for his outbursts during her time with J.R.

During the changeover in episode 7, when the cast gathered to end their trial marriages and return to their original partners, Sandy opened up about how upset she was with Nick's behavior. Recalling the incident when Nick showed up at her door at night and requested that she leave the show, an emotional Sandy criticized him for tormenting her throughout the experiment.

Later, when the pairs returned to their apartments, Nick took accountability for his actions and apologized to Sandy, reassuring her that he would rework himself.

"I'm just so f**king sorry," Nick said.

However, The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On fans were not on board with Nick's decision to apologize to his girlfriend. They believed he had nothing to apologize for since Sandy was the one who had developed an emotional and intimate connection with J.R. while Nick navigated the experiment alone.

"There’s no way nick is apologizing to Sandy when she’s the one who’s been shady and lying and rude nick brother grow a backbone and leave, she don’t want want and will never respect you!" a fan wrote.

"Why does nick keep apologizing when sandy was the one doing all the kissing on someone else???" another fan commented.

"I hate the word but Nick is very simp-like. Why is he apologising to Sandy for her dodgy behaviour? And Scotty is a psycho. Aria, run girl!" a netizen tweeted.

Many fans of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On disapproved of Nick's apology to Sandy.

"genuinely confused why nick is the one apologizing for trying to get his girl back," a user reacted.

"But why does Nick have to continue to grovel and apologize for his actions like JR and Sandy weren’t taking it too far? That would have seriously driven anyone over the edge," a person commented.

"Nick on #TheUltimatum is insufferable! He’s on here telling Sandy that his behavior was wrong when she was lying in bed and sitting in the pool kissing another guy. WHAT?? I almost broke my TV. Simping ain’t easy!" another fan wrote.

"Nick needs to stop damn apologizing. All that does is let Sandy think her actions are ok. Sandy is wrong, period. She mentions respect but doesn’t even respect Nick. She’s a terrible person," one user posted.

Other fans of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On expressed a similar sentiment.

"The fact that Nick has to apologize for bieng lied to and disrespected is wild to is beyond me," a person reacted.

"Why is nick apologizing to Sandy? She disrespected the guy on national tv," another netizen commented.

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"It did feel possessive and controlling" — The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On alum Sandy reflects on Nick's behavior

Nick spiraled halfway through the experiment after discovering Sandy had kissed J.R. and introduced him to her family and friends. He confessed that it felt as if his relationship was over. Consequently, he let his emotions overwhelm him and take command of his behavior, upsetting Sandy.

"Like, you've tormented me throughout this entire process. You've been attacking me," Sandy said.

Although it was difficult for Nick to internalize her remarks, he took accountability for his actions and agreed to improve his demeanor.

After returning home from The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On changeover, Nick confided in Sandy that he felt spiritually connected to her. He was convinced Sandy was his "soulmate" and that they were meant to spend the rest of their lives together.

Nick confessed that the experiment helped him recognize his shortcomings. The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On cast member was sad to see how quickly Sandy had developed a connection with J.R. However, Sandy believed otherwise.

"Just you being alone has unleashed all of these demons," she said.

Nick defended himself by saying he was hurt after learning about their kiss and that he did not want another man to be close to his partner. He explained that although he was not trying to be possessive or controlling, he acted a certain way because he considered Sandy his "person." However, Sandy disagreed.

"I understand that, but it did feel possessive and controlling. You know in your right mind, this is what we knowingly stepped into. What you wanted to do," she said.

When The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On star reiterated how hurt she was, Nick confessed his love to her. He vowed to "figure it out" and not give Sandy another chance to be disappointed in him. Nick apologized and reassured her he would walk away from the relationship if he did not change his thought process or demeanor.

Nick acknowledged that if Sandy ever wanted to move on it would solely be because of his behavior.

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