"To not be physically intimate"—The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On star Sandy chimes in on getting back with Nick post-trial marriage

The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3 episode 7 premiered on December 11 and kicked off "The Change Over" phase of the experiment. After spending three weeks with their respective trial partners, the singles reunited with their original partners and reflected on the things they learned that could be applied to their initial relationship.

Sandy discussed with Nick about his lack of involvement in their relationship. Nick acknowledged the issue and shared how he was trying to work on it. He suggested that they should start with rebuilding their physical intimacy, however, Sandy felt that they shouldn't rush it.

The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On contestant further stated in her confessional that after exiting her trial marriage, she chose to refrain from getting intimate with Nick, as she needed time to process her emotions regarding both him and J.R.

"Since being back with Nick, I have made a decision to not be physically intimate. It's not something that's normal for me, and I just wanna honor that... 'I'm just feeling those [trial marrige] emotions and, like, allowing myself to have the space to process things," she said.

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The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On stars Sandy and Nick reflect on what they learned from their respective trial marriages

After spending weeks with their trial partners, Sandy and Nick reunited in The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3 episode 7, marking the beginning of "The Change Over" phase of the experience.

Sandy reminded Nick that before entering the show, she had been "begging" him to spend time with her. She emphasized the importance of quality time in a relationship and expressed how it had been lacking in theirs.

"You know leading up to this, I had been, like, really begging you to hang out with me, talk to me, be with me. It's the quality of time that we are spending together. You won't even sit on the couch with me," she told Nick.

Nick admitted that he was working on making changes. He recognized the distance that had grown between them and noted that during her trial marriage with J.R., Sandy seemed surprised to experience the things she had been wanting in their relationship.

Regardless, The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On star felt that he was being punished for it.

"I acknowledge that. I'm shifting. I do feel like there's a bit of this happening, where you've asked for something, and now you're getting it. And you're like, 'Whoa, whoa, whoa.' It's hard 'cause I feel like I'm getting… I do feel I am getting punished for it," he told Sandy.

Sandy appreciated that Nick was trying to change and pointed out that it was showing in her behavior towards her. However, she cleared that she wasn't trying to punish him for his lack of effort in their relationship. She explained that she was just trying to work through all the stuff as well, and was scared of it.

Nick added that he was trying to shift, and asked her to shift as well. The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On male cast member shared how he was working on their relationship to give her the things she needed and wished that his partner did the same for him.

"I'm trying to shift, so you need to try to shift as well. I'm trying to shift to give you the things you need. Give me the things I need so we can meet and do this f*cking thing. We f*cking love each other," he said.

He further emphasized the importance of their physical connection, stressing the need to reconnect and "get back to that place." However, Sandy advised against rushing it, suggesting they take "one step at a time."

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The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3 episodes 1 to 8 are available on Netflix.