"What are you talking about?" — 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star Vanja reacts to Josko calling her "the one" 

Season 7 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days aired episode 17, The Choice, on Sunday, December 22, 2024. The episode showcased Vanja exploring her connection with Josko, a man she met on a dating app, following her breakup with Bozo. During a couple's hike, Josko stunned Vanja by opening up about his feelings and telling her she was "the one" for him.

Josko feared Vanja would reject him after hearing he had a foster son. Contrary to his expectations, she pleasantly surprised him by saying it was "honorable" of him to foster a child. However, she was unsure if she would be a good mother. Josko assured her she would excel at motherhood and said:

"I mean this is our third date and I already know that you're the one. You're the one for me and you're the one for him."

Stunned by Josko's faith in their fairly new connection, she asked:

"What are you talking about?"

The 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days cast member felt overwhelmed when Josko confessed how much he appreciated her. Despite feeling reassured, she feared she would disappoint Josko and not meet his expectations.

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90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days: Vanja fears she does not have enough to offer to Josko and his son

Josko wished to discuss the future with Vanja before she returned to the US. He had his concerns about Vanja accepting his foster son. When he asked her for her opinion, she said the child was lucky to have him as his father.

At the same time, Vanja confessed it was "scary" to date a parent because of how deeply she would bond with their child during the course of their relationship. She recalled the aftermath of a previous relationship, where she lost not only her partner, but also the connection with his child after they parted ways.

"I dated somebody and he had a daughter and I essentially watched her grow up for five years and when our relationship ended, the fact that I could no longer see her, just broke me so much more."

While speaking to the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days cameras, Vanja revealed it devastated her to cut all ties with her ex-partner's daughter, with whom she had created a "very strong bond." She worried she would have to experience the same pain if her relationship with Josko ended. She also did not want the child to suffer the impact of their decisions.

Vanja expressed her concerns to Josko, saying that she did not want to scar the child's future. Moreover, she feared she was not qualified to be a good mother. Vanja explained that she led a "strong independent lifestyle," where she worked four jobs and rarely had time for other things.

"What if I don't have enough to give?" she asked.

Josko dismissed her fears because he believed the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days star had enough love within her and would make for an "amazing mom." He added that he wanted her in his life because she was "the one" for him and his son.

When Vanja asked him if he was sure, he said:

"I have a good feeling and my feeling has never betrayed me so..."

Josko's reassurances put Vanja in a difficult position, leading her to reconsider her decision to never have children. Although she hesitated to take on the role of a stepmother, she did not want to end her relationship with Josko.

Overcome with emotions, the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days female cast member struggled to decide her next step. She worried she would fail Josko and his son by not meeting their expectations.

"It's a lot," she added.

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90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days airs every Sunday only on TLC at 8 pm ET.