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Vanessa, a 30-year-old woman who participated in The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3, was in a relationship with Dave, 34, when she issued the ultimatum that brought her onto the show.
In The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On season 3, Vanessa’s decision to leave the show alongside Micah, Chanel, and Dave left viewers stunned.
However, her time on the show took an unexpected turn when, after being paired with new trial marriage partners, Vanessa left the experiment abruptly, alongside Micah, Chanel, and Dave.
The decision was initially unexplained, leaving viewers of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On curious about what led to this sudden exit. Later, Vanessa explained that her departure was a result of prioritizing her mental health.
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Vanessa's early exit in The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On
A relationship on the brink
Vanessa and Dave entered The Ultimatum with significant relationship tension. After dating for nearly three years, Vanessa felt frustrated by Dave’s reluctance to commit to marriage, leading her to issue the ultimatum.
While Vanessa was ready to take the next step, Dave was not in a rush to settle down, which caused insecurity on Vanessa’s part. She expressed her feelings, stating:
“I don’t know why he can’t just commit to me in a marriage going forward. Is there something about me that is not making you want to dive right in? I deserve someone who is 100% certain.”
This disconnect between the couple set the stage for their participation in the experiment. During the show, Vanessa formed a connection with Nick, someone she felt she could be her true self with, which led her to choose him as her trial marriage partner.
Meanwhile, Dave briefly considered a relationship with Mariah, but their connection didn’t develop, and he eventually ended up with Chanel.
The sudden exit: What happened behind the scenes?
After being paired with other contestants for their trial marriages, Vanessa, Dave, Micah, and Chanel made a surprising decision to leave the show. According to Netflix, all four participants “secretly met off-camera” before deciding to exit without informing the rest of the cast.
This move left many fans confused, and viewers were left wondering what led to such a drastic choice.
Vanessa later addressed her departure, stating that she had to make the decision that was best for her mental health. She shared with a fan on Instagram, saying:
“I know I just had to do what was best for my mental health. You’re only seeing 1%.”
In response to a fan's request for an apology to her trial marriage partner, Nick, for leaving abruptly, Vanessa responded firmly, saying,
“You don’t know what happened behind scenes. I have nothing to apologize for.”
She also added that viewers would learn more about her experience during the reunion episode, where she would provide further context about her decision.
The aftermath
While Vanessa remained tight-lipped about the details of her exit, she teased her followers on Instagram with cryptic posts. Ahead of the season’s premiere, she shared a photo of herself, captioned,
“POV: knowing what happened on @ultimatumnetflix and counting down the days til you get to watch how embarrassing it all was.”
Dave, too, reacted to the chaos of the season in his way. He posted a humorous Photoshopped image referencing the "Elmo fire meme," captioning it,
“How it looked on @ultimatumnetflix vs. how it felt.”
He went on to describe the season as a “dumpster inferno,” hinting at the turbulent nature of the experiment. In the wake of the exit, The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On fans are left eagerly awaiting the reunion episode, where more details about the contestants' decisions to leave the experiment may be revealed.
Season 3 of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On is now streaming on Netflix! The first five episodes are available, with new episodes dropping every Wednesday.
Episodes 6–8 will be released on December 11, and Episodes 9–10 will be available on December 18. Tune in on The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On.
