40+ RED FLAGS THAT CHANGED RELATIONSHIPS FOREVER

Relationships aren't easy, and some people are better off as friends than romantic partners. From having different tastes in TV shows to arguing over whose turn it is to do the dishes to what restaurant to eat at, these small issues can add up over time and become bigger problems.

These people shared their significant other's real-life red flags on Reddit, proving red flags shouldn't be ignored. You won't believe some of these crazy red flags!

Social Media Star

U/Cannotakema: "Lady stayed the night for the first time then started taking pictures of my house the next morning and posting them on social media. She put my bedroom, living room, and master bath on and I was like…what are you doing. She said, 'I want everyone to see your place.' I said, 'Uhh, let me take you home.' I also told her I didn’t like that she did what she had done. What she took away from this became obvious pretty soon.

She complained on social media how I was so petty for not liking her posting my house. Then she called me up to go out again! I was just astonished that she thought I would be like 'post my house, speak ill of me, and come on back.' That was one night…NOPE."

Disastrous Date Plans

U/adkichar55: "She was driving and handed me her phone so I could navigate the directions. While I was holding her phone, she got a message from another guy. I had already told her their friendship made me uncomfortable and she said I had nothing to worry about.

But then I read the message and I broke down. He wanted to know what time to pick her up for their date. I calmly asked her how I should respond."

Living a Fantasy

U/itsathrowawai: "My wife and I have been married for two years and together for 15. After some medical testing, we found out that it was near impossible to get pregnant…We were thinking of adopting, when one day she came home and told me she was expecting. A week later, we had an appointment and she had some blood drawn. The test came back negative after all…her reaction weirded me out.

She claimed that she was pregnant and that the doctor was wrong. My wife is in complete denial. She is buying them clothes…and is pressuring me to start with the nursery. My inaction is making her believe that I want to leave them and that I am going to doom my wife into the life of a single mom. I love her but I don’t know what to do."

It Takes Two

U/dudius: "She was texting someone a lot when she was at my place one day. She told me she had made a new friend at a party over the past weekend. It didn’t seem like a friendship, but I didn’t push the conversation. The next day, she told me we should break up, and even though I was surprised, I didn’t argue. Then, a week later she tried to get back together.

She sent me a text message saying she missed me, but I told her I’d only take her back if she could honestly confirm my suspicions. She admitted that his name was Andrew and that things ultimately didn’t work out between them. Reading that gave me closure, and I was ready to get my sweet revenge on her. So I texted back, 'I guess we’re both liars now' and blocked her phone number."

Fearing the Worst

U/ThrowRA09060906: "My wife works as a flight attendant and is often doing long journeys to other countries. Our second anniversary was last week and she was not going to be home for it, so I decided to give her a surprise card and one of a few gifts. However, I was going to bury it in her luggage suitcase before she was about to leave. That’s when I found them.

They were new-looking white lace…pieces that I have never seen before, as well as a pair of heels…That’s why now I am fearing the worst—infidelity. She doesn’t know I saw it because I didn’t leave the gift and card, but she has been back home since then and gone again. I am going crazy with the thoughts of her with another man, but I don’t have concrete proof."

No Survival Skills

U/Belisar002: "She microwaved her travel coffee cup in my microwave and nearly set my kitchen on fire. It was clearly made of non-microwavable plastic and stainless steel. Lightning was forming in that microwave, as was pitch black smoke which began to pour out.

She got annoyed at me for being upset by this and I then realized that this woman, despite being very attractive, kind, and usually good-hearted, lacked a survivable IQ and common sense. Previous actions contributed to this final judgment but this action and lack of response to it sealed the deal for me."

No Table Manners

U/Bobson_Dugb: "My date, who was a restaurant manager, took me out to dinner. He was rude to the staff there almost constantly.

I had had enough and got up and left a twenty on the table, after he said, 'Do you want to see how long it takes me to get this waitress to apologize to us?' The waitress was great—she only forgot one extra water."

Girlfriend's Secret

U/TorrenceMightingale: "I once had a patient who came into the ER for a UTI. She had been with her boyfriend for four months and she was acting extremely dramatic for just having UTI. We told her we needed to test her urine. She urged us to catheter her, which was really unusual…the other nurse and I agreed and we put in a catheter with her lying on the gurney.

That’s when the nurse let out a bloodcurdling scream. ‘Call L&D! She’s crowning!’ The girl swore she had no idea she was pregnant. They wheeled her off to a postpartum recovery room, and her boyfriend was just kind of left standing there, dumbstruck. ‘We have only been dating for four months. I had no idea she was pregnant. She never mentioned it at all.’"

Reality Check

U/esyougeeayeare: "My ex was involved in a motorcycle accident and he broke his back. I was handling all of his paperwork and insurance claims while he was a bit out of it.

I needed some information from his phone and found out he was talking to another girl when I was gone for a week. He feigned confusion, but I think reality hit when I walked out the door."

Didn't Go as Planned

U/anythingrandom5: "My wife told me a guy from her work was stalking her, so I told him I knew what he was doing and that he needed to stay away from her or else. But here’s the crazy part—he had no idea my wife had accused him of stalking her. He assumed I was talking about the affair they were having.

It freaked him out and he immediately went home to his wife and confessed. My wife was just trying to get me to get rid of him for her and hadn’t told her jilted lover the alibi she was using. After he confessed to his wife, she called me in tears and asked how I know about the situation. It was a confusing conversation until I realized the truth of the situation."

Secret Accounts

U/Traditional-Resist45: "To set the scene, I have been married to my wife for 10 years and we have two boys (6 and 10). I work full time and my wife is a stay at home mum. Financially we do ok, there’s no issues putting food on the table and paying bills, but we’re not going on an overseas holiday every year. Last night I was looking at our joint bank account on the internet and I noticed an unexpected transfer (about $100 so not huge). I thought this was odd and looked through the transaction history and saw that there’s quite a few transfers to this account - there doesn’t appear to be a pattern to the frequency or amount.

I confronted my wife and she eventually admitted that she has a seperate bank account that she hasn’t told me about…she refused to show me the account on the internet as I wanted to see how much was in it and what purchases she has made. I went to bed without talking to her again. I went through her wallet and found her bank card. On the way home from the gym I went to an ATM and checked the balance…there was only a few hundred dollars in the account. She also hasn’t made any unexplained expensive purchases - no new jewellery or expensive clothes. What I can’t work out is why she refused to show me the internet banking details. I feel like she’s really trying to hide something but I can’t work out what it could possibly be?"

Daddy Issues

U/PlayfulPickle4501: "My dad (42M) has four children. My dad has a son from a previous marriage who is now 7. My dad then got married to my step mom (26F) and they had two children, a girl who is now 4 and boy who just turned 1. I had a small break in between school and when I was starting my first job as a dental assistant. My dad and my step mom were struggling with child care and had asked me if I could watch my brothers and sister…I love my siblings. My dad on the other hand…He is a narcissist and not respectful towards me or any woman. When he asked me to watch them, I had asked him if he was going to pay me for these services. He was so mad when I said that he hung up the phone.

He then wrote me some long text messages in quote 'If you are going to be that conceded about money then stay home. Don't worry, 1 won't be asking you for any help in the future when it comes to your siblings. We spoiled you and now we see what that created, someone who is conceded and spoiled, only caring about themselves and money and nothing else…' Now keep in mind I was not asking for much. I have paid for my own rent, my own schooling, and all of my other needs. I only asked him to pay me to babysit because it was big time commitment for me when this was supposed to be my break from work/school. I feel that is not my responsibility to watch his children because I did not choose to have them. I have not talked to my dad in over 3 months because of this argument."

On a Short Leash

U/anorangehorse: "So my good friend Aaron and his girlfriend Mary have been together for almost 7 years. Personally, I would call them extremely co-dependent. Neither of them really have any friends aside from each other…In fact, she doesn’t let him do a lot of things. The reason why they’re still together is that Aaron is completely whipped, and to him she can do no wrong.

Now here’s the issue: A few weeks prior to this, I hung out with a friend of Mary’s, Alison. Alison told me about a party they went to where Mary got drank too much and slept with her ex. Aaron has no knowledge of these hook-ups. It will destroy him, ruin their entire relationship, and maybe a friendship as well. However, I think in the long term he will be unhappy with a marriage where she’s so controlling."

Dear Diary

U/PurgatoryMountain: "I was dating this girl for almost a year and it was serious. One night, I was at her house and she got into the shower. I was on the floor playing with her iPad when I noticed a book under her bed. I opened it thinking I would see beautiful sketches, but it was her diary. She wrote about how she had been cheating on me with multiple men.

I called one of her friends with who I had become tight with and asked her to explain…My girlfriend got out of the shower and asked why I left. I told her I read her diary and that it was over between us. My girlfriend and three of her friends had made a pact. They were all in on it together…They’d rent hotel rooms together, cover for each other, and made detailed notes so no one found out."

That's Not Me

U/DJdisonanca99: "I was in a new relationship and everything seemed to be going great. She invited me to meet her friends and I was chatting with everyone.

One of the guys and I were getting along, and at some point, I introduced myself as so-and-so’s boyfriend. He excitedly said: 'Oh, you must be Jake!' For the record, my name is Anthony."

Caught in Action

U/hoocares: "My then boyfriend had let me use his iPad to watch a movie on Netflix. He had his messenger account linked to both his tablet and his phone, and messages kept popping up on it while I was watching without him realizing I could see.

I got to watch in real time as he got his best friend’s wife to agree to sleep with him over the coming holiday weekend; with the promise that he’d get rid of me for that weekend so they could get intimate in our bed."

The Getaway

"My boyfriend surprised me with a weekend getaway to a luxurious hotel. As we were checking in, the receptionist gave us a strange look. Receptionist: 'Sir, I'm sorry, but there seems to be an issue with your reservation.' Boyfriend: 'What? But I made the reservation weeks ago!' Receptionist: 'Well, someone named 'Jessica' canceled it just a few hours ago.'

Boyfriend: ‘Jessica? I don’t know a Jessica.’ Me: ‘Jessica, as in your boss Jessica. How could you? I always knew you were working extra hours at work, but I thought you were working extra hours to save up to buy me a ring.’ All his mysterious behavior started making sense. I finally got the courage to end the relationship once and for all. I even made him book me a room at the hotel just for myself."

Self-Esteem Hit

U/THROWRAsjaja2828: "I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and I thought he was attracted to me, all of me. That all changed last night. He brought his friends over. I’m cool with them, but we’re not that close so usually when they do come over to play video games, I go upstairs. The door was closed but I stopped to listen. I know eavesdropping is wrong, but c’mon, they said my name! The friend went on to say that I have a big butt and nice cans, but I’m a ‘butterface’ without makeup. And my boyfriend laughed!

His reply was somehow even worse than all that: ‘Her body is perfect.’ I’m ashamed to say my self-esteem took a hit but it did. It hurt worse to know that my boyfriend laughed and didn’t defend my looks. He’s attracted to my body and not my face…"

One Eye Open

U/GAU8: "I went over, and we got in an argument so I slept on the floor, essentially. I went to the bathroom to text one of my buddies to come pick me up since I thought she had fallen asleep. I suddenly get a text from her saying, 'Where are you?' I froze up and opened the bathroom door. She was already standing there waiting for me in the darkness.

She didn’t say a word at all, just stared at me until I walked by. I went back to my spot on the floor and got under the blanket and pretended to be falling asleep until she did. After about 30 minutes, I decided to peek out from under the covers and…she was literally towering over me in total darkness with her eyes wide open the entire time."

Disturbing Confession

U/throwramerr: "My boyfriend and I decided to make the 8ish hour drive back to our home state to live for a few months. Right before leaving, we got into a big fight…Fast forward to our drive, and not long after hitting the road…I passed out. I don’t even really remember falling asleep. I woke up one time for a while, drank some Gatorade that he gave me, and then I fell asleep again.

I thought this was extremely weird because I wasn’t tired hardly at all…Yesterday…he made a disturbing confession. He made the offhanded comment that he wishes he could d--- me more when I ‘act out’…I ask him what he’s talking about. He proceeds to tell me he put Benadryl in my drink. That’s why I slept, so he didn’t have to deal with me. I’m still reeling from the conversation and completely floored."

Time of Turmoil

U/QRT_W: "My best friend accidentally let it slip in a Facebook message because she thought I already knew. I was relieved because I had suspicions but never any proof. When I confronted my wife, she tried to say the guy aggressively took advantage of her. I didn’t buy that lie and she finally confessed.

But here’s the kicker—despite everything, we still stayed together for another seven years. Even though we tried to make it work, our relationship never recovered. It was turmoil because she’s a raging narcissist who can’t handle making mistakes. I finally left her in March of 2017, and within two months she was shacked up with someone else, raising their kid with two new adopted dogs to replace the ones we had together."

Complete Opposites

U/Tousca: "We had been together for quite a while—about 6-8 months—and had been living together for at least 2 months when I decided to make tuna salad. I came back with two bowls, half the can made his way, and half the can made the way I liked it. He completely freaked out about the two different versions. He said, 'If we can’t agree on how to eat tuna, how will this ever work?!' I said that we don’t have to agree—we can both have it exactly the way we want and be happy. He vehemently disagreed.

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Then, I started thinking of all of his other controlling behavior and the inability to compromise. It wasn’t that day that we broke up, but it was definitely the day our relationship broke. The cheating didn’t help either."

Lucky Streak

U/ElToberino: "I was in Denver for a month for work. We had a date night planned for when I got home, but she called me crying that night as I was on my way back. The entire conversation made my heart sink. She confessed that she’d been with someone else.

As it turns out, that 'someone' was her ex-husband. But that’s not all—I got lucky, because a few months later, she called with positive STD results, which I avoided too."

Changed Man

U/ThrowRA_healthful: "When I married my husband, I knew that he was an overweight, lazy video game nerd, and I loved him anyway for his warm heart and kind personality. He went on this camping trip with his friends two years ago, and when he came home, it was like something had lit a fire under his butt. He completely changed interests—he never played video games again and took up running, reading books even though I’d never seen him read before except for school…He became a vegetarian even though, before, he’d been a meat and potatoes guy.

I barely recognize him. We still have a good marriage, and I still love him, and he has motivated me to be better in the last two years, but….I can’t help but miss my husband. I know that people change, but about all that’s left of him is his warm heart."

A Unique Date

U/wsawyer12: "I was dating a girl in college…We both loved going to watch concerts for smaller emo-type bands. Anyway, I took her to Dallas with my sister—who happened to be dating the lead singer of one of the bands at the show—and a couple of other friends. Well after the show was over, we were all hanging out with a lot of the band members in the cellar-like bar area.

We were all laughing and having a good conversation when my girlfriend says…‘This seems like a really good place to screech.’ So, confused…one of the guys from the band says, ‘Screech?’ And, then my girlfriend immediately lets out this…screech that had everyone in the venue turn around to see…I knew the exact moment that I was done with a relationship…we got back to town, I…said, ‘Well, it’s been fun, but this relationship just isn’t going to work for me.’"

Game Over

U/Cupcake_Octopus: "I dated a guy back in high school. I thought he was pretty awesome—he was one of the first guys that I dated that didn’t dump me after a week. Well, after about 3 months of dating I, finally, went over to his house to spend time with him—it took a while to convince my mom to let me—and we were playing Super Smash Brothers.

I had already told him I was pretty decent at the game since I grew up with two older brothers and played it with them all the time. I beat this dude ONE TIME and I swear I’ve never seen a dude act like such a toddler. He screamed, threw his controller at the ground, and started cussing at me and the game. I grabbed my things and got out of there and never looked back."

On Record

U/SnooLentils314: "We had been married for a few years and it was great, but once we had a baby, he panicked. Eventually, he asked me for space. Ten months later, I added a new Amazon Echo to our family Prime account and I noticed a device I didn’t recognize. Since it was linked to our account, I was able to go through voice requests and play them back.

One recording sent chills up my spine. It was my husband saying, 'Alexa, play beautiful love songs' while in the background I can hear intimate noises. Turns out, he was having an affair with a colleague. When I originally shared this on social media, it got picked up by a tabloid newspaper with the headline ‘Amazon Slimeball’ which is now what he is saved as in my contacts forever."

In Denial

U/notthedad19: "My wife and I have been together since high school, and married for 10 years. My wife’s best friend Megan and I work for the same company, though in different departments. So yesterday, she wanted to meet me after work and told me that she had to tell me something. I met her, and she immediately broke down and started crying. I tried to console her and asked if something was wrong.

That’s when she told me that my wife and her husband were having an affair. She also told me that her husband was my three-year-old daughter’s biological father. Well, when I confronted my wife, she tried to deny everything. But when I told her that Megan told me about it, she broke down and started crying, too. I really don’t know what to do. I mean, everything was a lie, right?"

Those Three Words

U/321zzz: "I’m an anesthesiologist. C-sections are typically done under spinal anesthesia…I’ve seen it more than once, but I remember one time in particular when the parents were both very caucasian, and the baby was very much not. The actual father obviously had to be very dark-skinned. At delivery, when the not-father saw the baby, he just looked down at his wife, who was starting to cry, and he spoke the three words everyone was thinking:

‘You’re a cheater.’ He then walked out. She started screaming for him to come back, but there wasn’t much she could do since she was, you know, still being operated on. She lost it to the point I eventually had to sedate her just a bit because she was in danger of injuring herself."

Love Getaway

"I found out through her blog. I don’t know if she didn’t remember that I had signed up to support her or if she just didn’t care. The blog post gave extensive details about how she finally found 'real love in the world.'

She posted it while on a supposed business trip, which ended up actually being a week-long vacation with the other guy. I shipped her things to the hotel."

Secondhand News

U/PessismisticPanda: "My girlfriend at the time didn’t have a phone, so she would contact me using her friends’ devices. One day, I was trying to get a hold of her, so I texted some of their numbers. After a few minutes, I received a shocking reply, and it hit me like a runaway train:

'You need to stop. She broke up with you and is seeing someone else. Leave her alone.' This was far from true. We had not broken up…In fact, we had even scheduled her dream vacation to Italy for her birthday."

Sneaking Suspicions

U/Ilunibi: "He has a longtime friend of his (who happened to be female) who was staying the night. She was sleeping in the basement bedroom and we were upstairs. Well, he slipped out of bed in the middle of the night and woke me up. When he noticed, he told me he had to go to the bathroom.

I guess I already had my suspicions, because I lay there and listened to him walk down the hall, then past the bathroom, and down the stairs. So, I followed. And caught him in the basement getting ready to sleep with her. Oh. I was not a happy puppy. Was stupid and tried to salvage our engagement, but I wasn’t 'fun anymore' and he left."

Loyal Best Friend

U/nic326: "We were doing long-distance while I lived abroad. He visited me with a plane ticket I purchased. Less than a month after, an old coworker of mine told me she saw him at a bar kissing and holding hands with another girl.

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She confronted them, saying she was his best friend and that he was already in a relationship. His best friend was dating my brother-in-law’s friend, so he eventually got caught."

Cabin Fever

U/ThrowRA-194802: "I walked in on my son in bed with my brother’s wife…and I think they have been doing this for a while. My brother moved in with us…with his wife and two children. I have three teenage children and all of them live with us…my son and my sister-in-law would often go on an early run around the farm. Strangely, I never saw them make any rounds around the farm. I asked about it and they said they decided to hit the road.

Yesterday, I was coming from a friend’s house early in the morning. The sun wasn’t up yet and…I saw that the cabin we have…was open and the light was on…so I went to close the door and switch off the light. I took a peek, and it was my son and sister-in-law going at it. I didn’t confront them, I was so in shock."

Love Square

"Once while I was working in the maternity ward, the doctor gave this newborn baby a shocking diagnosis—she had chlamydia. She got it from the mom, obviously. So, the mom had no choice but to admit she was cheating on the dad because there’s no other way to explain that one.

Except…the dad was cheating too, with the other guy’s girlfriend, and all four of them had chlamydia. None of them had any idea who had it first. They also had no idea who the actual dad was. That was a rodeo."

The Dates Don't Match

U/YouCanGet_It: "We were in college and she told me she was pregnant. We weren’t sure what to do besides schedule a doctor’s appointment. I was all-in for her, ready to step up to the plate for her and our child until the doctor told us a key piece of information that turned everything upside-down: The estimated date of conception.

I realized that I was out of town during those dates, so I questioned her about it. She confessed to sleeping with my roommate while I was out of town."

Schoolyard Drama

U/ATribeOfAfricans: "My first love was in my early twenties. We were volatile, constantly on and off, and it was very miserable and unhealthy. At one point, we lived together with my family, which gave them front-row seats to our disaster. We decided to take a break for a couple of days.

After being apart, she missed me and came to my school. We agreed to work on our relationship, but that night on the phone, I could tell she was dancing around something. I knew something was wrong and asked her directly what she was hiding. That’s when she dropped the bomb on me—she was leaving me for someone else. I was devastated until she started cheating on him with me."

Too Young to Understand

U/ThrowRAkiddilemma: "A month ago, my wife gave birth to a black baby girl. There’s one enormous problem with this. We’re both white, so she was forced to admit that the child was a result of a one-night stand last year. I’ve started divorce proceedings, although we’re still living together for now, partly for our two boys—aged 2 and 4, I’ve had paternity tests for them and they came back positive. Naturally, I have no ill will towards the baby, but my family members do.

What really worries me is that my two sons might pick up on these narratives. They’re too young to really understand what’s happening now, but I’m worried that as they grow to understand the situation that they might grow to resent their half-sister for 'breaking up their parents’ marriage.'"

Dying of Embarrassment

U/lotus_flower2419: "We went to the mall and stopped by this little kiosk selling cookies. I decided that I would get one cookie. The lady working there said that if I bought two then I would get an extra one free. So, I decided to buy two and get the third one free.

My date WENT OFF on this lady, saying that she was trying to scam me, etc. etc. He was legit yelling so loud that it was echoing through the mall. It was so embarrassing I wanted to die. If you’re rude to people in customer service, you’re not for me."

Ulterior Motives

U/mrdewtles: "My girlfriend had a studio apartment and lived alone. One day, when I got to her place, I went to the bathroom and saw used protection in the trash. We had stopped using protection, so she confessed easily. We still stayed together and she promised me she would change.

A year later, she found out I got invited to this exclusive party. She kept urging me to take her, convincing me it would be fun for both of us—little did I know that she had ulterior motives. I didn’t realize it, but her ex was also invited, and that’s why she made a big deal about me bringing her. I regret it to this day because I ended up finding her with her ex in the toilets."

Lying on the Landline

U/rshacklef0rd: "I came home from work and she was upstairs. I yelled for her and she said she was on the phone talking to her mom, and then she closed the bathroom door so I couldn’t hear her anymore. It was 2002 and we had a landline with cordless phones and a base station. I walked into the room with the base station, then hit mute and turned on the speaker.

At that moment, my worst fears were confirmed. I heard her talking to a guy and I could tell from the conversation that they had been intimate for a while. They were talking about when I would be working next. I didn’t say anything; I just talked to a lawyer and filed for divorce. When I told her I knew and had already sought a lawyer, she started dating the other guy."

Let it Sink In

U/Branquignol: "I didn’t realize I was logged in to her Facebook. She had used my computer and we had a lot of mutual friends. At one point, I got a message from one of her friends asking how it went last night. Her friend was excited to find out if she stayed behind and if he finally saw my exes’ underwear. It took a minute for everything to sink in.

We broke up in an amicable conversation and I didn’t tell her what I had found out. As far as I know, she still has no idea what prompted me to end it. We had been together for three years and we were both miserable. I wasn’t angry; I was just surprised that it came down to a Facebook message for us to pull the plug."

Sister's Strict Rules

U/ThrowRA_927: "I have agreed to carry my sister’s baby for her. So I am 6 months along…and I met a lovely man recently and we are in…a relationship. Before agreeing to carry their baby, we had some firm rules in place. The agreement was no bedroom intimacy of any kind…I introduced my new boyfriend to my sister and brother-in-law, and at first everything was great.

When my boyfriend had said his goodbyes, he then came over to me…and kissed me…My sister and brother-in-law jumped down my throat. They were talking about how I broke the rules…I had not expected such a reaction for just getting a kiss…By the time I got back home I had an email waiting for me. The email contained our original agreement but now it included a section with ‘No kissing of any kind,’…I feel like they are now crossing boundaries…Still, I am doing this…without any reward other than helping my sister have her…only biological child."

Self Centered Much?

U/unrealcrocodiletears: "I was dating a guy for not even 6 months when a family member…unexpectedly passed. My mom and aunties were going to go alone to deal with everything, but…I didn’t want them to do everything alone. So, I went and did most of the moving of my late uncle’s belongings. I got everything organized and sorted, packed his truck, and drove it back to our home city…I’m also a part-time Ordained Minister and was asked to do the eulogy for the funeral/cremation.

During this time, the dude I’m with won’t stop blowing up my phone. He tries to tell me I’m cheating on him. He even messages my brother on Facebook saying that there’s an emergency and he needs to talk to me right away. The emergency was that he’s afraid my uncle’s passing made me unlove him."

Cautiously Catfishing

U/ThrowRA_sadangry: "My husband just messaged me on Tinder. I accidentally discovered he had Tinder on his phone, and I catfished him with a fake profile…and he messaged me.

We’ve been together for 20 years and married for 15 years. I don’t even know how to approach this with him without crying or screaming. I don’t think I can trust him anymore."

Moving a Little Fast

U/whatsername235: "He followed me on a night out, got on his knees, stopping traffic in the middle of a city center street to declare his love. We had been on two dates.

He also told me that same night that he could see into the future and already knew he was going to die defending my honor while I was carrying our twins. Yeah…he was fun."

Bullying Boyfriend

U/ThrowRA540098: "My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year and we had a baby boy last week. I had a natural birth and my boyfriend was there throughout the whole process. I screamed A LOT, and each time I did, he whispered something awful to me. Things like, ‘Can you stop screaming, you’re really embarrassing me.’ I also threw up a few times and I saw him cover his face in shame. He also said that my birthing position was embarrassing too, and called me a few vulgar names.

When I try to talk to him about it, he denies ever saying it and that I’m being silly…I tried asking him about couple’s counseling, but he refused. I haven’t said anything to him yet about splitting up."

Heartbreaking Revelation

U/StanMarsh01: "My friend seemed to have it all. But there was one problem: No matter what he said, his beautiful French wife refused to speak English when her family was over. Instead, they would just speak in French the entire time while he sat by, not understanding a word.

He started to get suspicious, so he recorded their conversation and got it translated—that tape was absolutely heartbreaking. The entire family was insulting him whenever they came over. It was absolutely brutal."

Coming Clean

U/ThrowRA-doistink: "I have been with my boyfriend…and everything has been great—except for one thing. Every single day…he will tell me that I stink and smell of B.O. Now I am so paranoid about smelling bad that I shower at least twice a day. I also apply new industrial-strength deodorant every few hours…I didn’t think I smelled bad in the beginning and I don’t think I smell bad now, but I obviously smell bad to him, right?

I waited for him to make a comment this morning…It was less than an hour after waking up that he said ‘god you stink,’ I said if I still smell bad to him, then we should just break up. I eventually got it out of him that…his father told him that it was a sure-fire technique to have a woman never leave you…He’s packing his things and moving out of my house today."

Man Child

U/Ines_cstle: "I met this guy. As I came to know him, I found out that he was working. And, then it turned out that he had enough money to move out of his parental house and live independently.

However, he chose not to do so. Why not you ask? He told me he would stay with his mother forever because she cooks and does the chores for him."

Down the Drain

"My best guy friend of 21 years kept trying to tell me to reassure his girlfriend he wasn't cheating every time we hung out and I finally told him to stop. Well.. y'all were right. Rob blocked me on everything. Not just me, but also our two other female friends. He didn't even send a text explaining he was blocking me, I just noticed my texts weren't delivering, then noticed I was blocked on snap, IG, Facebook, etc.

He still hasn't said a word to me. He did talk to one of the guys in our friend group, who Julie told me she did not know he was still talking to. He’s not even allowed to go out for drinks with the guys anymore. 21 years of friendship down the drain, for a girl he’s been dating for 6 months."

Passed the Test

U/Anon_64: "I matched with this girl on Tinder. She was significantly bigger than girls I normally date, but we have literally everything thing in common so I figured I’d give it a shot…We decided to meet up…last night…This beautiful woman comes over and starts trying to flirt with me. So I explain to her that I’m actually waiting for someone…That’s when she springs it on me that she’s actually the one I’m waiting for.

She told me how she’s lost about 130 lbs over the past couple years and she wants to make sure guys are actually interested in her and not just her body. She was also testing me to see if I would ditch the fat girl if someone hotter showed up…I don’t know how I feel about being ‘tested.’ I don’t want to live my life questioning every decision I make…I’m not sure how I should proceed."

Working Overtime

U/Raven_Strange: "My wife was an operations manager for a big box store and I had suspicions about her friendship with another employee. I checked her phone and the language was flirty but not incriminating. Her work friend was younger than her and he got accepted to a college in Syracuse. When he moved, she became a recluse and started complaining about going to work. I thought it was just the job making her sad, but really, it was the fact that her coworker was now living in Syracuse.

A few months went by and she planned a trip. I was excited and naive thinking she would come back as the woman I fell in love with. A day or two into her trip, I got a call from the bank asking to confirm suspicious charges. She had driven straight to Syracuse and the charges were for a hotel room."

Case Closed

U/unlimitednerd: "Lauren Lake’s Paternity Court is incredible. My favorite case was one where the woman spent almost the entire 25 minutes going over all this ‘proof’ that the kid was this guy’s kid. She used facial similarities and even brought in a witness to attest that she was of good character…Through all of this, the guy just stood there quietly…

Finally, the judge asked if he has anything to say or if he would like to plead his case. He motioned to the only thing on the desk: A manila folder. The plaintiff took it to the judge, and she opened it…then dismissed the case in the favor of the guy. Turns out, he had been deployed overseas in Afghanistan during the year before, which was when the pregnancy and birth occurred. He came home after four years and was introduced to ‘his’ two-year-old child."

Mating Call

U/pepperanne08: "I went on a date with a dude who thought he was a dragon! His friends were dragons too! He was looking for his mate.

He had all the elemental dragons as friends but the one he was missing was the water dragon and he knew that the water dragon was his mate. Also, he was close to 600 pounds and wanted to make himself a suit of armor to mirror his dragon’s exterior. I was out."

Soul Crushing

U/macho_madness: "My ex-wife started sleeping with my best friend of 14 years as soon as we separated, but I’m pretty sure that their affair started before that, when we were still married. Yep, not only did my ex crush my soul, she also took my best friend.

Oh, and he was also married throughout the whole time. I hear they have a baby now…and he is still married to his wife. Whatever. I hope karma comes for them soon."

Bachelorette Blowout

U/HurtBrideToBe: "This past weekend was my bachelorette party. The next day things started to go downhill. I was told to be ready to leave the house for 10AM. Around 3PM I finally asked my MOH what the plan was. She said we had missed our brunch reservation and everyone had immediately started drinking when they woke up so no one could drive us anywhere anyways. That night the plan was to go into town and hit up the club. However, when we FINALLY got to the club things immediately started going bad again. I went and grabbed myself a drink and by the time I came back my group had integrated themselves with a group of around 6 guys. After awhile we went back to the table and everyone had left!

When I woke up in the morning only three people had made it back. The plan for the day was to go to the beach and then play some silly bachelorette games…only 2 girls ended up going to the beach with me. I asked what time they wanted to do the bachelorette games and they said they were having fun playing drinking games and didn’t want to stop now…I sat on my hurt feelings for a few days then texted the bachelorette group chat and told them how excluded I had felt all weekend and that it didn’t feel like a bachelorette party. A few of them told me I was selfish and that they had spent a lot of time, money, and effort for this bachelorette party…"

The End

U/summermode: "I went on a date with a guy. We ordered our meals and while we were waiting for them to come, I stepped away to go to the bathroom. When I came back, I found out that he had canceled part of my order while I went to the bathroom because he thought I had ordered too much.

It was just a small, extra dumpling. That was the end of everything."

Virtual Sherlock Holmes

U/Greedy_Lavishness935: "We got engaged the summer after I graduated college. We had been dating for five years and I had to move home for work for six months. I noticed she started acting withdrawn. My attempts to talk to her on the phone while I was away were described as smothering. She wasn’t acting like herself so I began to investigate.

I started checking the phone bill for numbers she was texting and looking through her emails. I didn’t find anything and I thought I was paranoid, but then in January, I found an incredibly telling piece of evidence. It was an email that I found in her outbox with no trace of prior conversation. She wrote to another man that she’s in a relationship but she’s looking for someone to help her be a fun girl."

Totally Blindsided

U/Kes0422: "I found out he was cheating because he didn’t come home after a night out with the boys. I woke up at 4 am and panicked, thinking something horrible happened. I tried to call him but his phone went straight to voicemail, and his friends told me he had left hours ago. I decided to drive around to where the boy’s night had been. One of my friends worked at one of the locations they went to and her car was still outside.

My gut told me to drive by her house and I was horrified at what I saw—there his car was, still in her driveway. I furiously banged on the door and he answered. We had been together for five years and I felt blindsided. I cut them both off and never looked back."

Icy Relationship

U/hypertext0: "For the past seven years, we’ve been really, really happy together. We are really connected to each other…We rarely fight, and when we do, we resolve issues quickly. It’s like a perfect relationship. Except just when I was contemplating proposing to her, I feel like she’s gone cold for the past month. She seems to be a different person all of a sudden.

Then…I was reminded that she has a spare phone just sitting in my drawer…So I grabbed a charger, booted it up…and it just so happened that her Google account was still logged in on the device…then I discovered her recent searches. The searches go like this: ‘I cheated on him,’…'Breaking up a long term relationship,’ and so on. I am devastated discovering this. But I haven’t confronted her about this. I am confused, I am in shock, and I just don’t know how to react."

Can't Stop Crying

U/SnowGlobe12: "I came home from work early and found female sneakers in the garage that weren’t mine. My husband…has been consistently going to the gym, during which he made a female friend…She’s beautiful and thin and everything I am not, which instantly made me feel horrible. He encouraged me to build my confidence and reassured me he loved me and would always be loyal to me.

I…sort of tiptoed around the house before going upstairs. They were getting intimate. In our bed. With a framed picture from our wedding above the nightstand…I’ve been crying since. It’s now almost 1am…and I’ve returned to the hospital. He called me asking why I wasn’t home and I told him my shift is extended but in reality, I’m laying in one of the on-call rooms bawling my eyes out. I don’t even know how to proceed."

Sacrifice for Love

U/lovemygirlfriend267: "Two nights ago, my fiancée accidentally set fire to our kitchen…The fire spread quickly and burned through most of the building before they were able to contain it. I wasn’t home, so I wasn’t there to help my girlfriend…She knew she wouldn’t be able to make two trips and she had to act fast. Both of us have lost parents. I have most of my dad’s stuff in a storage unit, but in our bedroom I have his ashes and a couple of other…things from my time with him.

She lost her mom as a teenager…she only has a few small things of hers…Instead of choosing to save the few things that she has of her mom’s, she gathered up my father’s things…and ran out of the room…I can’t imagine what she was thinking or how much she must really love me to make that decision."

Friends to Lovers

U/throwradontknow: "My wife and I have been married for four years…Last night, I got the shock of my life. She said her ex’s name while we were getting it on. When I noted it, she gave some weird excuse as to why. She said it’s a common name…and she must have heard it recently. But it has since gotten me worried about why she did that.

They had broken up when I met her and decided they were better as friends. He was her best friend…and I grudgingly went along with it…But…I put my foot down, saying it was too uncomfortable for me. Every time we broke up, she was with him. We finally reconciled and got engaged. He apparently didn’t know this and stopped talking to her. Now after this has happened, I’m tempted to see if she’s gotten back in contact with him again."

Edited by Vishal Subramanian